FAQ
A common worry we hear — from parents, siblings, teachers, employers, and LGBTQ+ folks alike — is not knowing the “right” thing to say, so people say nothing at all. Here are a few tips.
1. When in doubt, ask
It’s okay to admit you don’t know the right terminology and ask someone if they’d be willing to talk it through with you.
2. Mirror the language you hear
Use the same terms a person uses for themselves. If someone refers to their “partner,” ask how their partner is doing.
3. Don’t assume
Being out to you doesn’t mean someone is out to everyone. Respect where each person is.
4. Check in
Identities can evolve. Ask how things are going rather than assuming.
5. Families come out too
Parents and family members go through their own coming-out process. Find someone you can talk to — like PFLAG — so your questions don’t land as “unacceptance” on an already-vulnerable loved one.